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January 14, 2014 at 4:26 am

Surgery Day for Momma D

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This is one of the more difficult blog posts for me to write.  I’ll admit, I have gone back and forth for a few weeks whether or not to put my situation out there.  In the end a discussion with Daddy D pushed me to document my experience.

Today is no ordinary day in the D household.   My mom will be putting the gaggle of boyz on the school bus as hubby and I are headed to the hospital.  Because today is surgery day, I am having a hysterectomy.

It is so strange to type those words.  Especially after months of doctor visits, tests, biopsies, sonograms, discussions, debates and even the anticipation- both good and bad- leading up to this.  It hasn’t been top secret.  But it also hasn’t been something I’ve shouted from the roof tops.

Which led me to today.  Do I not say anything?  Do I vaguebook to let those “in the know” stay updated throughout the next few weeks?  Do I overshare?  There were pros and cons to all of those options.  And to some, this is oversharing.  I get that.  It is a fine line that is incredibly personal.

What made the decision in favor of sharing my experience was actually what has been happening in private the last few months as I have come to grips with this decision.  I have found my tribe.

No, not some message board devoted to hysterectomies (although if you are looking for a great website, check out HysterSisters.com).  That of the women in my life already who have talked with me, counseled me, shared their experiences or just their support.  I am humbled and honored to call them friends.

This includes my friend Marcy, who is a nursing student and was the catalyst to get the help and diagnosis when she saw me at a sports banquet for our kids and was visibly shaken by my appearance and health.  The fellow football mom who is a nurse at my doctor’s office who agreed on the spot and got me in to see the doctor within 48 hours.  My mother and stepmother who gave advice and guidance based on their own experiences.

Then there are the half a dozen other women in my life who have answered questions, given phone numbers and answered calls or instant messages at all hours of the night.  They have helped to ease my fears, address my concerns and spoken with such care and concern.  These women have been where I have been.  Have had to make the tough calls either way.  And they have gone above and beyond the awkward and uncomfortable and given me the down low and nitty gritty.

I go into this major surgery with my eyes open.  With concerns and fears.  But with the knowledge that we have explored all options, soberly made an important decision with my doctors and family, and that this is the right decision in my particular situation.

I am a woman of faith, and would love if you would take a moment to lift up myself, my family and my surgeon in prayer.  This is a surgery on my body, but it is a group effort.  There are many cogs to keep our household moving like clockwork through this.  I am thankful for family and friends that are helping out.

The next few weeks and months will bring a lot of changes.  I will probably share some of it here, because it will be time to pay it forward and be part of the tribe to someone else who needs it.

Things here might be sparse for the next week or so.  But as always, you can get Momma D updates on Instagram and Twitter.

12 Comments

  1. Lisa Edwards says:

    I had one 2 years ago and I don’t regret it at all! Good Luck to you! It’s a kind of long recovery but you have all those handsome guys in your life to help!

  2. Good luck mama! My mom and sister have both had this surgery and I had my own scare this fall when I wouldn’t stop bleeding for months.(Thankfully we were able to get things back on track and it turned out my fibroid was not the cause like initially thought.) I’m sure this is a very scary time and that it was a hard decision. You’ll be in my thoughts today, hon! Wishing you a successful surgery and fast recovery!

  3. First of all kudos for being so brave to share what is such a personal matter- but I think in doing so you are opening up a much needed conversation. I cannot tell you HOW MANY women I know who are having this procedure done and it is so cloaked in secrecy– I am praying for you to have a full and speedy recovery and I will be following your journey and know if anyone can shed light on this it is you! BIGGEST REFUAH SHELAYMAH going out to you mama!!!!

  4. Thinking of you! Sending you courage and strength and wishes for a speedy recovery. xox

  5. Sorry for what youre going thru jenn but know that you will get thru it….God is on your side and all of your boys need you. I remember my mother having this same procedure and the way it changed us…but benefited us as well. Your family will probably see things the same. I pray for you and wish you all the best!

  6. Thinking of you and sending all the love in the world for a smooth surgery, fast recovery, and this helps you feel better! xo

  7. Good luck to you and I hope you have a fast recovery! You are going to do great! Science is so advanced that a coworker had hers done via laparoscopy and she was back at work in no time! Every woman is different though and dont forget to let yourself heal completely! Let those boys take care of you.

  8. Thinking of you and your family today. May you have a speedy recovery.

  9. Just wanted to add my prayers to the others, and say that I’m so happy that you have a tribe to support you through this. Lately I’ve had conversations with people about how catty women can be to each other… I needed this reminder of how good we are at wholeheartedly throwing our support behind someone who needs it.
    Good Luck! I hope you have a speedy recovery!

  10. Diane M. stiglivh says:

    I just saw this today…I send you loving thoughts and will be thinking about you and sending good, healing energy all day long….if you are in need…please call me..I am here. Aunt Diane

  11. Thinking of you and hoping your are feeling well!

  12. Thinking of you and sending well wishes !

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